I have finally gotten round to writing this blog post, I put a tweet out asking for people to vote for which blog post they’d prefer next and the winning vote was a Q&A. I think this will help you all get to know me a little bit better, and find out it I have any tips / advice on certain topics.
Since becoming a mum, has your outlook on life changed?
Yes definitely, my life has changed completely and 100% for the better. Before having my little girl, I was going through a very tough time suffering with various mental health issues & generally really struggling with life, I was at the point of giving up until I unexpectedly found out I was pregnant and my whole life changed – I had a purpose, a reason to be here & my whole life revolved around my baby. She changed my life for the better & she will never know how much she has helped her mummy recover. She’s my world!!
What parenting ‘must have’ have you found not to live up to the hype?
I would say possibly a changing table? When I was pregnant it was on my ‘essentials list’ and I felt like as a first time mum, It was something that we “needed” but in actual fact we hardly ever used it. It was easier for me to change her on the floor (on a changing mat) so I probably won’t be buying one of those for my next baby, as they’re so expensive.
If you could give one piece of advice to a newbie blogger, what would it be?
I’ve said this over & over – just go for it!! You have absoultely nothing to lose if you start off small. Make sure you write about things that are relevant to you and your blog – don’t just copy other blogs otherwise you’ll find that nobody is really interested. Be yourself, be honest & just go for it!
What made you start blogging?
I have always loved writing, as a child I was always scribbling in notebooks, writing stories and poems, entering various writing competitions & loved English at school. I came across blogging after watching people “vlog” on YouTube – I have watched YouTube for years but have always been to shy and anxious to upload anything, I’m much better behind a screen rather than on screen so I thought I would go for it. I started to document life on Instagram and posted so many pictures, I felt like I was spamming everybody’s news feeds.. I remember having a comment on one of photos saying I should start youtubing, I told them I was too shy and that’s when they told me about blogging. I didn’t share my blog with anybody at first, and I just admit my partner laughed when I told him I had started a blog but now I have been blogging since the beginning of the year & it’s proven to be quite successful so far. I’m so glad I started blogging, the online blogging community is amazing and I have met so many lovely mummy bloggers on here too.
Where is your favourite place to write for your blog?
I am currently still writing my blog on my phone and my Samsung tablet, but am saving up for a laptop so I can blog easier.. I usually write in a notebook & then copy it up to my website.. depending on what time I have. I like to sit in our bedroom and chill when my OH plays on the ps4. But when my laptop arrives I will be sitting at my dressing table and writing. I upload 3 times a week, Monday, Wednesday & Fridays.
When did you start giving your daughter solids like toast, beans etc?
We started Alyssia on solids at 6 and a half months old, We started with cucumber chunks, sticks of melon, banana, brocolli, cooked carrots etc – at first she didn’t really eat any of it and was just using it to learn what to do.. at 7 months we tried her on more solid foods like toast, at first she wasn’t sure about the texture but now at 14 months old she loves it and is so good eating her fruit & veg, for anybody that is starting weaning – whether that be babyled or purees, I definitely reccomend that you start with fruit & vegetables. Alyssia will choose fruit & vegetables over foods like biscuits or chips anyday.
How did you encourage Alyssia to go from standing unaided to actually walking?
We bought Alyssia a babywalker, in hope that it would encourage her to walk. She started to walk around the sofas holding on so I assumed she was nearly there but it took her a good 3 months of doing this until she actually started walking. At first I was encouraging her to use the walker every day but never really got anywhere with it, until I stopped showing her and one day she just got up and walked it across the room.
Do you plan on having any more babies?
Yes, definitely! I love being a mum and have felt like this is something I’ve always wanted to do. My labour with Alyssia was very fast & we barely even made it to the hospital so this (along with the pain) put me off at first but i said I’d wait until Alyssia turned one years old.. She’s now 14 months old & im still not quite ready for baby no.2 – I would like to wait until the end of the year until we start trying for another, by this time Alyssia will be nearer to 2 years old & I feel like this is a better age for her to understand. There are just over 2 years between me & my brother, so there will be the same kind of age gap between Alyssia and baby no2 if I fall pregnant towards the end of the year.
How many children do you want?
I think I would like 3 or 4 children, I have 2 younger brothers and rob has 1 brother & 2 sisters. I have grown up around my cousins & step cousins and have always loved the thought of a big family. But you never know, the pain of going through labour even once more might put me off again – we shall see.
If you could go back and give the younger you any piece of advice, what would it be?
Hmm, this is a hard one. I would probably tell myself not to worry so much and that everything would be okay in the end. As I said above, before I fell pregnant with Alyssia I was actually quite poorly and couldn’t see a light at the end of the tunnel, but it turns out my life has completely changed and I am definitely in a much better place now.
What is the blog post of yours that you’re most proud of?
I would say the blog post that I’m most proud of would be: “10 things I wish I knew about childbirth” along with the blog post “things i wish i had known before having a baby” I loved writing these & everybody seemed to love them and could relate! I also wrote a big list of “activities for toddlers” that I’m quite proud of which went live on Wednesday.
When did your daughter start to roll over and how did help her get to that point?
Alyssia started rolling at just 4 months old. She was very strong holding her head up at such an early age as we did tummy time from just 5 days old, so it’s not surprising that she started rolling early. She started to sit unaided at 5 months old & was crawling by 6 months. However she didn’t start to walk until a week before her 1st birthday.
When did you start potty training and how did you go about it?
Alyssia is only 14 months old, so we haven’t yet started potty training. I still feel like she is a little bit too young to understand. She knows when she’s done a poo, she always laughs and goes to grab her changing mat. But is still quite confused when she’s done a wee, the other day she accidentally wee’d on the floor after her bath, I stupidly let her run around in a towel without a nappy on – oops mummy fail.. my fault.
How do you think of new meal ideas for Alyssia? And what are some of her favourite meals?
I love cooking meals for A, she is a brilliant eater and always has been. I always try and include vegetables in her meals, and she usually has some kind of fruit for pudding. She always has at least 1 fruit with her lunch. Some of her favourite dinners are: Spaghetti Bolognese, Slow cooked Sausage casserole and Roast dinner.
When should I start to give my baby solid foods, some say 4m+ and some say 6m+ I’m confused on what to do?
Ok, So according to the NHS you should start to give your babies foods at the age of 6 months. Health experts agree that this is the best age. Before this your babies digestive system is not yet developed enough to cope with solid foods.
What foods do you buy week to week for Alyssia’s snacks & meals when doing the food shop?
Every week, I buy fresh fruit for Alyssia to snack on. She loves blueberries & strawberries, cucumber and also loves bananas.. I try and switch it up a bit each week, sometimes I buy raspberries and oranges or melon instead but she will always have some fruit during the day. Alyssia loves the kiddylicious wafers and she’s also a big fan of rich tea biscuits.
Any tips on how to teach Alyssia to drink from a straw?
Alyssia used to get so confused when I have her a bottle with a straw, and she still does sometimes. She has always been used to tipping the cup so she gets confused when she doesn’t have to. I have found that using the nuby bottles with the removable straw really helps and if you fill it right up, even if they tip it – it doesn’t matter. I haven’t yet tried Alyssia on a ‘normal straw’ as I’ve never needed to but she is good at drinking out of her nuby bottle that has a straw.
How do you manage working/blogging with baby and finding that time and balance to do things for you?
I am a stay at home mum, I upload a post 3 times a week (Monday, Wednesday, Friday) and I blog plan on a Sunday, Tuesday & Thursday.. I do this when Alyssia has gone to bed. She usually goes to bed around 7 so I have a good few hours to wind down & do some writing. Now and again I will sit down for an hour and blog plan when Alyssia naps throughout the day but usually I’ve got other boring things to do (like washing etc). If I’m honest, blogging is one of the only things I do for myself.. some mums will have a glass of wine & a bubbly bath however I just like to sit down and write.
What’s your favourite thing to do for a bit of ‘me time’?
Can “peeing in peace” be one of them? Haha, joke! As I said above, blogging is the only time I really get to myself and that’s when Alyssia is in bed. It’s nice to just sit down with a hot chocolate and watch the soaps though too, and I enjoy a nice hot shower without standing on bath toys..
What are your aspirations? Other than being mama to A of course, is there anything you would absolutely love to do? Hobby/travel etc.
Hmm, this is a hard one. Before I found out I was pregnant, I wanted to be a midwife. I passed my Health & Social Care exam at GCSE and went on to do an apprenticeship at a hospital near me, until I found out I was pregnant and had to withdraw my application. Things changed and obviously I’ve had to put a career on hold to have children but it honestly is the best decision I’ve ever made. I love being a mummy!
Thanks for reading,
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