If you’ve been reading my recent posts or instagram posts regarding christmas you’ll know that I am a massive fan and am cracking out the christmas tunes as soon as December 1st hits. I love christmas and now that I have my own daughter it’s even better. Growing up my parents always did christmas, we would spend christmas morning all together & open all of the presents that my mum had spent all night wrapping. Some years we would stay at my dads house and some years at my mums but we would all be together regardless of where we were. We would have christmas dinner which was nice & would all sit round a table together. As I got older I got more involved and would help with christmas dinners etc in which I loved doing. Christmas has always been quite stressful but I do really appreciate all of the effort that my parents went to, to get us the best presents even if that did mean paying off a credit card for the rest of the year. Christmas can be a hard time for many, whether that be money or personal issues.
If you know me or have read my blog for a long time you’ll know that I was quite unwell at Christmas in 2014. I was sadly admitted to hospital with terrible thoughts & really didn’t want to be here anymore, I was severely depressed and I just remember sobbing for the whole of christmas. Thankfully I had an amazing support network around me and I managed to recover within 2 years. Since then I have found each year quite hard to deal with but 3 years later, I have my own daughter giving me plenty of reasons to smile and it really has put the magic back into christmas. This year we plan on spending Christmas just the 3 of us again and we will see family & friends on a different day over the festive period, I just really like it that way and I find that there is less stress and you can be relaxed within your own home with your own family. We are spending new years with my Grandad & I can’t wait to see what the future holds for us as a family. I thought it would be interesting to know how other families do christmas, so I asked a few of my fellow blogger friends if they would like to write a short paragraph regarding their christmas traditions etc:
“I love Christmas, it’s always been a special day, my parents divorced when I was young so the only person I’m guaranteed to see every Christmas is my brother, but this year he’ll be in Australia. It’s my sons first Christmas this year so I can’t wait, Christmas Eve we all open one present, usually it’s pyjamas for that night, the next morning we get up, look in our stockings at the end of the bed, eat junk and open presents then have a big dinner before playing board games and watching movies. I can’t wait for my first one with a family of my own” – Eileen (2 Nerds & A Baby)
“Christmas used to be my favourite time of year as a child, even as an adult I always loved it. Things changed a few years ago though. My dad died in the October and I had my little girl only a couple of months later early in that December, so that was a really strange and completely different experience of Christmas. In the couple of years that followed it’s slowly become a much harder time of year, and trying to enjoy it for my daughter is quite bittersweet now really. The year before last I didn’t even bother putting a tree up until Christmas Eve – I just didn’t feel like I could. I’m trying to change things though, slowly. Last year was the first time I did our very own Christmas Day at home, and it was actually not too bad! I’m going to try and create new traditions for us in the years that come, as I want my little girl to love it as much as I used to, but this time of year is always hard on a personal level, as my family is more or less nonexistent now. I don’t want to be a grinch forever about it though, so learning to love it again is a work in progress!” – Alex (Actual Ar)
“My Christmas’s had always been the same growing up, I loved every year. When my parents were still together, me, my little sister, my mum and dad would all decorate the tree and house together. We would always have stockings which we left outside our bedroom door for Santa. On Christmas morning we would sit on the end of my parents bed and open them. Our parents always put a satsuma in the stocking, but me and my sister would sneak them back in the fruit bowl so we didn’t have to actually eat them… I remember the July that my parents broke up, I would have been about 12 and my sister 10. I remember how much effort both our parents went into making sure Christmas that year was just as special as it had always been before. My dad slept over on the Christmas Eve downstairs on the sofa, so he could be there with us in the morning for all the gift-giving. I never thought about it back then, but now, thinking about it, it must have been so upsetting for both him and my mother. How they must have felt having a ‘different’ Christmas to usual. Even though physically the day played out just like any other Christmas beforehand, emotionally it just wasn’t the same. The atmosphere and the happiness had lowered. The way my parents sat on separate sofas instead of together, and the way that we had separate presents from both mum and dad. I think that was the Christmas that I realised that parents aren’t *just* parents, their people, and people change. Christmas’s change.” – Caitylis (Caitylis Blog)
“Christmas for my family sort of fizzled out as the youngest generation got older and although we always exchanged presents and had a special dinner but nothing particularly “traditional”. This sort of stayed the norm until Eloise, the first child of the next generation of our family was born and now we go all out. We normally go to my Grandmas for Christmas dinner with festive activities during the run up and leaving reindeer food out the front along with a mince pie and drink for Santa. The magic of Christmas for me is certainly about the children.” – Gee (Gee Gardner Blog)
“When I was younger, my family consisted of me, my mum, my stepdad and brother. Every Christmas eve, we would do some last minute cleaning and change our bedding, baths and new pj’s and we would all get a takeaway and leave our carrot, mince pie and milk or brandy out for Santa (apparently brandy is his favourite drink). We would wake up on Christmas day and go downstairs to our presents which were set out around the room in set areas. After breakfast we were allowed to open them, we usually got a new outfit to wear that day too. We would then go round to my nans who lived nearby and we would open our presents there and she would do a big buffet for us all (3 grandchildren in total) and we would stay there playing with our new stuff until bedtime. We would have either had our Christmas dinner the Sunday before or the Sunday after. Since moving in with my partner of 7 years, we haven’t usually been able to afford much around Christmas time and haven’t been much up to making any traditions etc. However now we have a little boy, I’m all for turning up the ante for Christmas. We have our first proper Christmas tree with decorations, I have plans for Christmas such as baking, winter walks, taking our son to visit santa etc. As this year is his first big Christmas, we have decided we’re going to stay at home and let people come to visit us should they wish to. I’ve got a few days off work over Christmas so I’m hoping Christmas eve will be spent watching some Christmas movies and doing some festive baking together, I’ve got some festive pj’s for him to wear and I’m getting him an outfit for Christmas day. We will do lots of playing with his new toys, probably have visits from family and his dad is cooking a Christmas dinner. I feel like Christmas is to be more special now we have a child and I’m really so much more excited to celebrate it together.” – Claire (Dear Mummy Bear)
“Simply, having, a wonderful Christmas time…” yep we LOOOVE Christmas, in fact I’d go as far to say it’s my favourite time of the year. I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, and I respect that, but once my Birthday is done and dusted in mid November, personally, I’m ready to break out the decorations! I love the feeling we instinctively get as the air turns crisp and we know Christmas is around the corner, since having my children too it’s really reignited the magic that this time of year has the potential to bring. As we drive home with the night drawing in around us, our town is transformed into our very own Santa’s grotto, as we pass a trail of houses beautifully adorned with festive decorations, the children gasp and squeal, and the big kid within me squeals inside too! Once we escape the cold and shed our layers upon layers within the place we call home, the stage is set for the perfect hygge evening in… blanket wrapped snuggles on the sofa await us, with hot chocolates in hand (topped with cream and snowmen marshmallows of course) we will watch Home Alone for the umpteenth time. And as the candles flicker on the mantelpiece whilst their cinnamon aroma fills the air, and the Christmas tree lights dance and twinkle beside us, is it any wonder that this is our favourite time of the year…” – Katie (A Mothers Love)
I think it’s so nice and so interesting to find out what christmas is like for others and have a little nosey into their lives. Growing up I used to always think my family was different to others and I was right to a certain extent, but really we’re all just trying to do what’s best for our kids and it’s only now that I have my own daughter that I realise that. Christmas is a time to be happy, I hope you all have a lovely christmas & have enjoyed reading this post.