Looking back on the last 2 years I would say that the newborn days were not my best and I hate that I feel like that. I really struggled with breastfeeding Alyssia and I wish I had more help. I knew that something was wrong with Alyssia when she started coming up in a rash after every feed and would cry a lot. I was told ‘its normal, babies cry’ yeah babies do cry, but not this much. Not to the point where you’re crying too, you’re so sleep deprived that you can’t cope. Why did nobody tell me about this? Colic. Research has found that many new mums are not prepared for one of the most common medical conditions affecting newborns, with 1 in 3 British mums admitting they were not aware of infant colic prior to the birth of their child. Infant colic is a common problem that affects up to 1 in 5 babies, and usually begins when the infant is just a few weeks old 2. Signs and symptoms include:
- Intense crying bouts
- Crying in the late afternoon or evening that lasts several hours
- The baby’s face is red and flushed when they cry
- The baby clenches their fists, draws their knees up or arches their back while crying
And while infant colic is not harmful to the affected baby, the effects of sleepless nights with a colicky baby on both mum and dad can be huge. Research by Infacol has shown that more than half of British mums say a lack of sleep has affected their relationship with their partner, and a further third say it has affected their relationship with their children. Sleep deprivation is also well-known for negatively impacting on concentration and mood.
The link between infant colic and post-natal depression is not yet known, and it is clear that further research into the condition is needed. This is why Infacol, Britain’s Number One Colic Remedy, and Cry-Sis, the only parenting charity dedicated to supporting parents through excessive infant crying, have launched the first Infant Colic Awareness Month which took place in September 2017. Colic Awareness Month strives to educate and support parents to ensure they can experience the joys of parenthood to the full and even now 3 months later, I’m here to raise awareness again.
Alyssia suffered with infant colic and it was really tough, at first I thought I must be doing something wrong but I wasn’t and as soon as we were told it was colic it all made sense. One time in particular really sticks in my mind and this was when I went out for a driving lesson and Rob was looking after her for an hour or so, I got back from my driving lesson and walked in to both of them crying. I was so confused & asked what the hell was wrong to find out that she had been crying non stop since I left and he was really struggling to settle her. He too felt like he was doing something wrong and honestly it was heartbreaking seeing him so upset. Colic is horrible and not much helped but infacol did relieve her of the pain and at least that helped her to sleep for longer. I personally wouldn’t ever let my baby ‘cry it out’ because it could be colic and colic is not nice. It is said that you should never leave a baby to cry it out until they are at least 6 months old, after that its your call. Alyssia is now nearly 2, she whinges and whines for attention and sometimes I’ll let her do it for a good 5 minutes before I go in and see her but that is completely different to a newborn crying out for help. Colic is what led to our diagnosis of CMPA at 3 months old, I knew it was something more but nobody would listen to me. Infacol helped me get through the bad nights with Alyssia and I will be using it again in the future if my other children ever suffer with colic. *Fingers Crossed they don’t*
Have you ever experienced colic? Did Infacol help?
*this is a collaborative post.