It’s been 19 months now since I gave birth to my baby daughter Alyssia and I am finally starting to feel like me again. I was inspired to write this post after seeing Maisie talk about rediscovering her style post baby and it made me realise how much I had really lost my way with fashion. I’ve always loved makeup & fashion ever since I was a young teenager but when I fell pregnant I wore nothing but maternity clothes where a pair of ‘over the bump’ skinny jeans and a white t-shirt became my new style, not the best look but what can you do when you’re housing a bump? I feel like when I was pregnant I didn’t really enjoy my pregnancy as much as I could have or should have, I don’t know whether this was because I was afraid of what people would think or if it was because I found it hard to come to terms with my pregnancy, you can read more about this here.
When Alyssia was born I was a size 14, I was still in maternity wear and there was no way you would see me in a pair of skinny jeans until I was at least 6 months postpartum let alone a top that wasn’t covered in baby sick. I spent all my spare money buying baby clothes and other mummy & baby essentials, so buying myself new clothes was completely out of the picture. It turns out that I’m not the only one who has struggled with body positivity since the birth of our baby, my partner has too. Don’t get me wrong, I did all the hard work but he piled on the pounds at the same time I did. They call it sympathy don’t they? I guess with my cravings for chocolate cake and pizza he didn’t really stand a chance did he.. we figured we were both due a serious wardrobe update. If you know my partner you’ll know that he lives in shorts, all year round but I have found him some smart tops, jeans and even a suit that I think he could rock.
Until now, for a long time I have found myself wearing the same clothes (not literally of course) but I mean, plain long sleeved tops & a pair of leggings.. no style whatsoever where I have found myself not even wanting to leave the house. I figured it was about time I put some style back into my wardrobe so last week I went on a little shopping trip with my mum & my daughter, a girly day out. I have had anxiety at even the thought of hitting the shops for months but we left early in the morning and managed to dodge the busiest times. We only went to two shops, Primark & Newlook. Now I have always been a big fan of these shops however I did go through a stage where I would only buy clothes from high branded shops but now I’m a mum, Primark is my absolute go to alongside Newlook and Boohoo.
I went in on the search for a blushed pink pinafore which I failed to get, I was gutted to find that the only one left was in completely the wrong size. I love the denim and dungaree dress kind of look & I could totally rock that with a long sleeved tee underneath. I own 3 denim skirts & now that it’s coming up to winter, I plan to style them with black tights & brown Chelsea boots. When I went into Primark I was instantly drawn to the chunky knit cardigans, I picked up a mustard and tan combined cardigan and a light pink chunky jumper both in which I was adamant I was going to buy, until I tried them on and realised that they really weren’t my style, at all. I also picked up a pair of skinny jeans in a size 10, this is something I never thought I’d be saying but they were so comfy and I actually felt good in them. Primark are good for basic clothes too so of course I grabbed myself a few pairs of basic under tops and black leggings, they seem to have really upped their game lately and the leggings aren’t see through at all.
In Newlook I got two chunky knit jumpers that I am obsessed with, I could have got one in every colour but instead I whittled it down to two. The two being mustard & burgundy of course, how autumnal can you get? I also bought a little tan skirt in a suede material, I fell in love with this when I saw it but wasn’t too sure what to style it with. I’m thinking black tights, brown boots & a plain black tee but I’ll have to try it out and see what it looks like on me. A while back I bought some ‘paper bag’ type trousers from Misspap to wear to my Uncles wedding do but I stupidly left my change of clothes at home and had to wear the dress in the end anyway, fail. However I am looking forward to wearing these soon & styling them up with a black or white tee & some chunky heels.
Finding my style again has been hard, what I like and what looks right on me are two different stories and sometimes I wish I wasn’t so hard on myself. I decided to set myself a self care challenge for this month where I challenge myself to leave the house more and find the motivation to get dressed and put some make up on even if I’m not planning on going anywhere. I have fallen into a bad habit of staying in my pj’s all day and not bothering to put any makeup on or even brush my hair some days, call me awful, whatever, but that’s what PND does to you and I’m afraid you can’t look good every day. Last week I dyed my hair, bought myself a face mask, got some new makeup and started wearing a new perfume. I decided enough was enough. I can’t go on feeling this way I kept telling myself & it’s true, I can’t. Since buying new clothes, changing my hair & wearing a new fragrance, I have felt good for the first time in a while. The new perfume that I have been wearing is called Lovelily by Accessorize which was just £19.
NEWLOOK MINI HAUL – FAVOURITE PICKS
Burgundy Longline Jumper – £9.99
Organic Black Tee £7.99
PRIMARK MINI HAUL – FAVOURITE PICKS (In Store Only)
Basic Leggings £2.80 each
Khaki Long Sleeve Jumper £8
Brooklyn Tee £2.50
Grey Long Sleeve Jumper £8
Brown Chelsea Boots £14
Mustard & Pink Scarf £8
Black Skinny Jeans £9
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