Insta Mums VS Reality

Insta Mums VS Reality

People only post things online that they want others to see, you need to remember this when scrolling through your news feeds. You see the ‘perfect insta mums’ who have their sh#t together, but in reality.. is that the truth? Spotless houses with not a random toy or a pack of wetwipes in site, but really they are only showing you what they want you to see. You don’t see the toddler tantrums, you see smiley happy faces. You don’t see messy houses, you see tidy living rooms. You don’t always see the whole truth.

I have always been envious of Instagram accounts that have those perfect themes, white backgrounds, everything matching & nothing is out of place but then I remember that they are only showing you what they want you to see. You don’t see the mess in the room next door..So when you’re desperate to be ‘one of them’ please remember this.

There are so many things that we ‘fake’ online, perfection being just one of them. Clothing & Appearance being another, we are all guilty of it. With Instagram filters & different editing tools a lot of us have come experts at making us look nothing like ourselves, I for sure do not have bunny ears or funky glasses but on Instagram stories I do. I understand the reasoning behind editing your photo’s, I went through a stage when I was about 13 of editing my face on picmonkey so much that I looked like an oompa loompa with a blurry face. I guess we think “Well if I can make myself look better, why wouldn’t I?” Umm, because its not you.. Its not real. When you see the meme’s saying “Stop editing your photo’s, what if you go missing? How can we find you if you look like beyonce online and chewbacca in person” while this is quite a harsh way of putting it, its true.

Recently I have seen quite a lot of hate on one particular Instagram account, where a mum is posting her everyday life as a stay at home parent. This mum is like every other mum on Instagram, the only difference being that she is posting her bad days as well as her good days. This does not mean that she is seeking attention or that she is a bad parent, this is because she is real. Parenting is hard work at times, my little girl is my absolute world, but my god she drives me batty at times and I think its important that we all know that which is why I for one will not sugarcoat my experiences as a young mum.

Post what you want, but stop sugarcoating sh#t. We’re all just winging it really, lets be honest..




  1. August 18, 2017 / 10:07 am

    Love this Zoe, it is so very true. It’s great to hear there are people sharing both the good and bad days, I hope to see more of it because it’s just the truth, no one should be hating on anyone for being honest! I absolutely agree with all you’ve said. Xo

    • August 18, 2017 / 10:12 am

      Thank you so much Katie. I always find myself feeling quite jealous of the ‘insta mums’ but then I remember that we’re actually all the same behind the cameras! x

      • August 18, 2017 / 10:15 am

        Exactly! I always think if you flipped the camera round it’d be a very different picture xo

  2. Susan Wood
    August 18, 2017 / 10:12 am

    Brilliant ! x

  3. August 18, 2017 / 10:43 am

    LOVE! I think this goes not just for mums, but just everyday Instagram-people. I must admit I’m a bit guilty myself for doing this. Sometimes you forget the world isn’t as perfect as Instagram makes it out to be! I’m currently expecting my first and I sometimes wonder how these ‘Instagram mums’ make life look so happy and easy… as I’m not expecting this baby to be easy IN THE SLIGHTEST!
    I love the -real-mums- style Instagram, not afraid to show and talk about all the mess and poo explosions! x x x

  4. August 18, 2017 / 6:28 pm

    I absolutely love this. It’s not the first time I’ve looked at Instagram and felt like an absolute failure as I sit on the couch covered in baby sick with toys strewn everywhere thinking how do these women make it look so easy?!

  5. September 15, 2017 / 10:27 am

    Love this post! So true

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